she's in love with the boy

[aria rose slykhuis]

Hmm difficult situation!!!!!

Well, the most you can do is just be a good influence. I mean right now you can't do much because you have basically 0 contact with him. If you can get his address and write him a letter. Send encouraging words and what not! He may come around some time. Just give it time and honestly I wouldn't wait around for him too long. I mean you don't want to waste 10 years of your life hoping some guy comes along and hopefully you can change him! Not trying to be rude or anything at all!

For some reason a lot of women try to find guys they can "fix" I'm not saying that is what you are doing at all! But don't make it your job to fix him, he has to do that on his own. You can help him but don't make it feel like your responsibility to fix him.

It is tough and sorry if some of this sounds cruel, but I'm seriously not trying to be!! Hopefully it works out and what not!! Just be patient and chill

[tallulah grace montgomery]

Aww man, this is a sticky situation. D: I'd have to agree with Beth, though. Just be a good example for him and let him know you're there for him however he needs you. I'd write him a letter too, because letters are always nice. :]
If you're worried about the company he's keeping, maybe you should let him know? It sounds like he really wanted to turn things around but unfortunately it didn't work out that way in this moment, but it's never too late to try! Just invite him to hang out with you and such after he's out. Hopefully he'll see that there are better people out there for him. Sorry I couldn't be of much help, you've probably run this through your head a million times!

[aria rose slykhuis]

I agree with Tally too!!

Writing him is a good thing! Just let him know you are there for him whenever he decides he needs you or something. And it is great that you guys are good friends. I'm sure he will eventually, or already has realized that he needs to change...(I may have missed that part) And if you are right there with him and just guiding him, not putting any romantic pressure or anything and attempting at keeping yourself from waiting around (which can be hard at times, but if someone else comes along go with it, but don't ignore this guy! still stay friends!!!)

Hope this helped girly!! You'll make it through it! If it makes you feel any better this is the first time my man and I have been this far apart for 4 months!!! Just keep your chin up and be positive!

[tallulah grace montgomery]

Well that's good! Staying positive about it will definitely help. And I'm glad he liked the letter! :]

[aria rose slykhuis]

yay! Glad to hear! Agree with Tally! Keep positive and all that! Glad he liked your letter!